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Emoji’s Remind Me How to Smile

Remember the movie the “Terminator” with good ol’ Arnold Schwartzenager?  The premise was that machines were going to take over the world.  Welcome to the real world 2017 where technology is taking over mankind.  Not by way of Cyborgs (YET) but through handheld devices, computers, and gaming systems.  We are at a crossroads of the destiny of mankind at this very moment.  Our children’s welfare and future depend on the choices we are making right now. 

Most Baby Boomers could take or leave the technology that is consuming our children and grandchildren.  We remember the days before this time in history, when we made awesome memories based on our incredible imaginations, which grew bigger and more fantastic every day.  Anything was possible.  We were living life to the fullest, taking in the world around us, having adventures, and making cool stuff with our hands.  If anyone had a problem with us they said it to our face and it somehow got sorted out. 

These days we look around us and shake our heads because so much is being lost.  Our children and grandchildren are being turned into little addicted zombies.  Children are being occupied and soothed with not just television but also by having multimedia devices shoved at them when they get wiggly, complain, or ask too many questions. It’s like “Here you, Hazel, go play with mommy’s phone.” And the child is three years old or younger.  It is hard to watch childrearing being conducted with very little interaction.  Many families spend their evenings and weekends with everyone playing on some kind of electronic device, barely acknowledging each other.

When my kids were growing up (in the 90’s), we spent the evenings talking about our day’s events, playing board games, making crafts, reading books, and even playing imagination games with dolls or toy cars, etc.  Kids under ten nowadays are focused on mindless electronic games, wasting away hours staring at a digital screen.  Today’s teenager is obsessed with social media – what people are saying or not saying to them or whether someone “liked” their status.  Self-love and confidence has been replaced by “selfies” and selfishness.  These poor kids spend so much time with their brains locked into what is going on inside their phones that they do not know how to successfully navigate through basic life situations.  They are even losing their capability to appropriately communicate, interact or even naturally emote.  I suppose emojie’s can help!

In the earlier days of cell phones, maybe ten years ago, it was considered rude for people to talk or text on their phones while in the company of others.  Today, things are different.  I almost find myself apologizing if I am out to lunch chatting with a friend and they have a call or text come in.  “Oh, sorry – go ahead and get that.”  I’ll say, as though it must automatically be very important.  I mean, that smartphone doesn’t just beep for nothing, right.  And then they will completely check out from our real-time conversation to become absorbed by the phone.  I am cool with that when it is an anticipated call or text, or something of importance.  But for a “Hi, how ya doing?” and “Yeah, I’m just out to lunch with a friend.” ?  Come on, people.  Really?

Sadly, our brains are being rewired by the buzz we get from constant stimulation and validation. You can have an interesting time watching people for about 5 or 10 minutes and observing how often they look to their phones for comfort. They are checking for text messages or Facebook and Instagram likes.  Looking for acceptance by their 300 “friends” and their elusive self-esteem.  The truth is social media does have. some positive aspects, but in many ways it can be a real downer.  If people do not like or comment on posts and pictures a person may feel rejected and depressed.  Not receiving responses to text messages easily does the same. We are a society reliant on the input from other people, and the stimulus of nonsensical games and apps. The stimulation our brains receive can be as addicting as drugs.

So, if you think the “Terminator” was too farfetched, consider this: According to a recent news report, Disney has a purchase order in for an untold number of humanlike androids, which will roam their parks and interact with guests sometime in the near future.  I tried to find more information about this on the internet but was unsuccessful.  However, a scary little chill went down my spine when I saw the report last week on the news. “Haste la vista, baby.”

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Remember the movie the “Terminator” with good ol’ Arnold Schwartzenager?  The premise was that machines were going to take over the world.  Welcome to the real world 2017 where technology is taking over mankind.  Not by way of Cyborgs (YET) but through handheld devices, computers, and gaming systems.  We are at a crossroads of the destiny of mankind at this very moment.  Our children’s welfare and future depend on the choices we are making right now. 

Most Baby Boomers could take or leave the technology that is consuming our children and grandchildren.  We remember the days before this time in history, when we made awesome memories based on our incredible imaginations, which grew bigger and more fantastic every day.  Anything was possible.  We were living life to the fullest, taking in the world around us, having adventures, and making cool stuff with our hands.  If anyone had a problem with us they said it to our face and it somehow got sorted out. 

These days we look around us and shake our heads because so much is being lost.  Our children and grandchildren are being turned into little addicted zombies.  Children are being occupied and soothed with not just television but also by having multimedia devices shoved at them when they get wiggly, complain, or ask too many questions. It’s like “Here you, Hazel, go play with mommy’s phone.” And the child is three years old or younger.  It is hard to watch childrearing being conducted with very little interaction.  Many families spend their evenings and weekends with everyone playing on some kind of electronic device, barely acknowledging each other.

When my kids were growing up (in the 90’s), we spent the evenings talking about our day’s events, playing board games, making crafts, reading books, and even playing imagination games with dolls or toy cars, etc.  Kids under ten nowadays are focused on mindless electronic games, wasting away hours staring at a digital screen.  Today’s teenager is obsessed with social media – what people are saying or not saying to them or whether someone “liked” their status.  Self-love and confidence has been replaced by “selfies” and selfishness.  These poor kids spend so much time with their brains locked into what is going on inside their phones that they do not know how to successfully navigate through basic life situations.  They are even losing their capability to appropriately communicate, interact or even naturally emote.  I suppose emojie’s can help!

In the earlier days of cell phones, maybe ten years ago, it was considered rude for people to talk or text on their phones while in the company of others.  Today, things are different.  I almost find myself apologizing if I am out to lunch chatting with a friend and they have a call or text come in.  “Oh, sorry – go ahead and get that.”  I’ll say, as though it must automatically be very important.  I mean, that smartphone doesn’t just beep for nothing, right.  And then they will completely check out from our real-time conversation to become absorbed by the phone.  I am cool with that when it is an anticipated call or text, or something of importance.  But for a “Hi, how ya doing?” and “Yeah, I’m just out to lunch with a friend.” ?  Come on, people.  Really?

Sadly, our brains are being rewired by the buzz we get from constant stimulation and validation. You can have an interesting time watching people for about 5 or 10 minutes and observing how often they look to their phones for comfort. They are checking for text messages or Facebook and Instagram likes.  Looking for acceptance by their 300 “friends” and their elusive self-esteem.  The truth is social media does have. some positive aspects, but in many ways it can be a real downer.  If people do not like or comment on posts and pictures a person may feel rejected and depressed.  Not receiving responses to text messages easily does the same. We are a society reliant on the input from other people, and the stimulus of nonsensical games and apps. The stimulation our brains receive can be as addicting as drugs.

So, if you think the “Terminator” movie was too farfetched, consider this: According to a recent news report, Disney has a purchase order in for an untold number of humanlike androids, which will roam their parks and interact with guests sometime in the near future.  I tried to find more information about this on the internet but was unsuccessful.  However, a scary little chill went down my spine when I saw the report last week on the news. “Haste la vista, baby.”

Eyes and Mind Wide Open

There comes a time in everyone’s life when we experience an “Aha” moment that changes us forever.  We suddenly awaken to something that we never realized before, until that moment.  Or we discover that something we believed in so completely was not true at all.  This can be true of just about anything from the real reason our dog behaves a certain way, to the moment we see our relationships for what they really are – be it true love, a deep friendship or nothing at all – the list goes on and on.  Moments of awakening and seeing truth that has been staring us in the face can affect us as minor shocks to the senses, crushing blows, or entire spiritual events. No matter the magnitude or ramifications, what is learned is precious to our growth in this world.  If we are lucky, we receive many awakenings throughout our lives.

I recently experienced an awakening when I realized that some friends I had invested many years of my emotional sanity on were not truly friends at all.  The full realization struck me one night with such force that I thought I would shatter into the universe, never to be whole again.  My senses seemed to be fine-tuned that night.  I noticed the sly looks, smirks, and inside jokes that I was excluded from understanding.  It seemed so vibrantly obvious, as though the universe was yelling “Hey, wake up.  Pay attention to what is happening!”  These were no friends of mine and I was completely crushed that somehow, they had felt so comfortable with making me feel uncomfortable in their company.  But the truth was, the signs had been there way before that night.  As with all “Aha” moments, the information is already there for us to acknowledge.  We just have to become aware enough of ourselves and our environment in order to catch on.

Moments of awakening can come in a variety of shapes and sizes, as I said before.  Defining them here would be pointless because each of us are living our individual life experiences. One person’s awakening will be meaningless to another who is either not ready for that information, already has the knowledge naturally, has previously experienced that awakening, or it simply does not apply to them.  What is important is to know how to be receptive and accepting of these life changing realizations.   The following can help you in finding more “Aha” moments in your life:

DO

Live in the present moment

Pay attention to the people around you

Question the world around you

Research the things that interest you

Be aware of yourself (thoughts & feelings)

Be open to change

Live your dreams

Realize you can change your thoughts

Try new experiences with an open mind

Learn and read as much as you can

Live in gratitude of what you have

DON’T

Worry about the past or future

Live on autopilot

Take everything at face value

Think your beliefs are indisputable

Disregard your intuition

Reject new ideas or opportunities

Merely survive each passing day

Believe you have no control

Think you are too old to learn

Harbor regrets over past choices

Overindulge in purposeless activities

This is only a starting point.  And the point is that awareness is key.  Living purposely and consciously can make all the difference in the world as to whether you are creating a full life experience or merely existing.  Keep your eyes and mind wide open, and let me know about your “Aha” moments!!